Janet Ann Paine

I just want to apologise for the lack of candles for everyone. We are having a few problems with our computer and I am currently computerless. As soon as I can I will be lighting candles again. Thinking of you all and thanks for all your support xxx

Thank you so much to everyone who has left a candle etc for my mum your support has been amazing this last year. I hope you are all all ok at this difficult time of year, sending you all a big hug and thank you all once again xxx




Janet Ann Paine .Born 14th April 1950 and died on 28th December 2007,

Lived in Laindon West,Basildon

Sister to Eric, Joan, Peter, Robert, Tom, Margaret.
Wife to Bob Paine. Children Sarah and Matthew Paine. Grandchildren Florence, Albert and Lucas

Died of Breast Cancer which she had battled since 2000

My Mum

What can I say that would justify such an amazing lady…words seem inadequate somehow… courageous, special, brave, loyal, cheeky, fun, dignified, kind and caring ….she was the best wife, mum, sister, Nanajan, mum in law and friend. I am immensely proud of her; she was my rock and my best friend and even in the most stressful or upsetting times I loved our ability to be able to laugh. If I ever need advice or help, which was quite frequent, she knew just what to say or do to make it right. She will leave a big void in my life and I’m sure in every ones that knew her.
Mum comes from a very close family and was the youngest of seven. I feel so fortunate and privileged to be part of their lives. They have got me through this and I can’t thank them enough. Its rare these days to have such a close knit family, and even a generation on, my children love them and get so excited to see them.

Mum used to get loads of texts every day, when she looked after the kids on a Wednesday her phone wouldn’t stop going so much so it distracted me from my work! I would joke with her about having far too many friends it must cost a fortune in texts. She always said look after your friends and they will look after you and they did, she has some amazing friends and they got her through it especially her girls’ night friends, cricket friends and the girls from Lincewood. Its funny because over the years my friends have become hers and hers mine especially Maureen who she always said was like a sister to her, Linda, and Penny. If ever I was going to creepy crawlies or stay and play she would always come along for a cuppa and a chat and all my friends called her Nanajan. When she was feeling low she said the kids picked her up. Only last month she clambered into the ball pit with the kids.

I was looking at some old Christmas and birthday cards the other day and chuckled to myself because each year a different guide dogs name appeared along side my mum and dads! Mum also had this bizarre habit of saving any dogs teeth that fell out and she collected them in a pot, we used to joke about her making a necklace out of them but I am afraid to say that Penny has been left the pot of teeth, I was just so grateful it wasn’t me!!

I would do anything for another text message, or the sound of Si and mum having a joke and laugh in the kitchen on our Friday fish and chip night. Just one more hug from her or mums favorite Florry phase, lub U whispered in my ear would get me through this but I will make sure the ones I miss from my mum I will give to the Florry and Albert every day.

I know mums ultimate goal was to walk Florry to school on her first day and I have nothing but admiration for the courage and determination it took to get her through these years. I know she didn’t get to reach this goal but Florry has got some amazing memories of all the fun holidays and days out we had and all the sticking and painting and various other activities Florry got her doing! I am just very sad that Albert and Lucas wont get that same privilege.

My Mum and dad would have known each other 41 years on new years eve, they were very much in love and were best friends, I aspire to their relationship and was very proud of them, they enjoyed each others company so much and I admired the way they would just chuck some stuff in the car and go off somewhere walking for the weekend. Mum bless her left dad a detailed list of how to use all the appliances in the house. She never lost that ability to stop worrying about every one else.

I don’t know what I will do when big brother or some other reality TV show comes on this year and I haven’t got mum to laugh with about it and I know she was really annoyed that she would never get to the find out what happened in TV series LOST.

I think it appropriate that the final words come from my mum …………‘I know the songs I have chosen will be sad but I love them. My intention is that everyone will have a good cry and get it out of the way, then think of me without sadness, remember all the happy times and laughs we had, Finally look after one another for me, remember you all have been my life.